Written by Wes Penre in 2013.
…Life is not always easy to live. We get up in the morning and think we are doing just fine. We take a shower, perhaps, eat our breakfast, and get ready for work, and we’re still in quite a good mood. Then, when we come home in the evening and sit down at the table, we think, “What a terrible day!” Everything just seemed to go wrong—the boss yelled at us, we tried to talk nicely to our coworkers, but they misunderstood our communication and took offense, and with all that, we made one or two embarrassing mistakes. Therefore, we ask ourselves, how come? After all, we were in a good mood in the morning and didn’t expect all this to happen. Don’t we create our own reality?
Yes, we do! The trick is that we need to put the right energies behind our thoughts. We woke up in the morning and were in a good mood, and that’s a very good start. However, maybe we didn’t think more about it than that we were feeling good and that’s it. Sometimes that’s not enough—we need to be specific with what we want. Few people are aware of how many thoughts are going through their heads every day, and in fact, for most people, the majority of these thoughts are what I call sloppy thoughts or junk thoughts. How many times I during a day have we thought something like, “I can’t do this,” “this is a pain in the butt,” or even worse: “This particular task will kill me,” or “I am always messing up.” All these thoughts are typical examples of thoughts that go through most people’s heads during a normal day, and I’ll tell you—these thoughts are very powerful—especially if they become a pattern in people, which is very often the case. I had a coworker once who always used the expression, “It’s a pain in the neck” because she thought it was better and more polite than to use the word “butt,” I guess. More polite, perhaps, but certainly not better because what do you know—she developed neck problems and had no idea where they came from. I told her how this all works, but who knows if she believed me—she left for another job eventually. Anyway, it’s important that we are aware of what we think because we may end up getting what we’re thinking and saying, and it’s not always what we want. The body has a tendency to take you literally. Whatever you do, never think or say that something is going to kill you—you understand why now!
Negative thoughts like these can make our days a living hell, and we don’t understand why. I do now, and it’s interesting because I hear people saying these phrases all day long to each other, and no one is reacting because they have no idea about the consequences of using such repetitive phrases. We need to change these patterns, and now when you are becoming aware of it, I can’t stress enough how helpful it is to tell others who use these automated phrases how this all works. Be prepared that most of the time you will be met by skepticism and even laughter because they won’t believe you, but do your best not to be effected by that. Even if people seem to laugh it off, they may very well think about it afterward without telling you about it because they don’t want to admit that they were doing something destructive to themselves. Remember that anything you’re saying, if there is truth in it, will at least remain in the thoughts of the other person, and one day, he or she may actually start taking your advice….